Top 5 Catholic Christmas present ideas.

What better way to evangelise to those in laws you love so much than to buy them a Catholic inspired gift! Or perhaps you might want to let your priest know how much he is appreciated? Or even just want it for yourself! 😀

Anyway, here are my top 5 Christmas Gift Ideas from Di Clara.

1. Brown Scapular. (3 styles available)

This is the highest quality hand made scapular on the market today. The Brown Scapular is a wonderful devotion practiced by millions of people worldwide. It carries promises for the one who wears it. In the year 1251, in the town of Aylesford in England, Our Lady appeared to St. Simon Stock, a Carmelite. She handed him a brown woolen scapular and said, “This shall be a privilege for you and all Carmelites, that anyone dying in this habit shall not suffer eternal fire.” She also promised to shorten their stay in purgatory if they should pass from this world still owing some debt of punishment. 3 designs available HERE.

2. Catholic aprons.

Do you have a Catholic who just wont sit down? or perhaps a “Rigid” who doesn’t mind a bit of fun?! Then here is the gift solution you have been looking for. A not very expensive way of making someone smile 🙂

3. 2018 House Blessing.

The perfect Christmas gift for friends and family. Every Catholic home should have one. Epiphany 6th January (also known as Twelfth Night, Theophany, or Three Kings Day) marks the occasion of a time-honored Christian tradition of blessing ones house. What does the inscription 20 + C + M + B + 18 mean? The letters have two meanings. First, they represent the initials of the Magi — Caspar, Melchior, and Balthazar — who came to visit Jesus in His first home. They also abbreviate the Latin phrase, Christus mansionem benedicat: “May Christ bless the house.” The 3 crowns represent the 3 Kings. The “+” signs represent the cross, and the “20” at the beginning and the “18” at the end mark the year.

4. Virgin Mary Tote Bag. (4 colours available)

This bag, besides being beautiful, is a fantastic tool for evangelisation. Believers and non-believers alike will be drawn to the beauty of the design. The perfect opportunity to share the beauty of the Mother Mary with others! 4 designs available HERE.

5. Mantilla.

If you have not yet got your wife a mantilla, do so! Or perhaps ladies, you need to be getting yourself one and giving it to him to wrap! (This is what happens in our house 😉 !) And now we have the brand new Cathedral length mantilla veils. All come with free hair clips and slide and a satin Di Clara carry bag.

Ok and just one more bonus gift…

Priests Chalice Pall.

This is one for your priest. A beautifully embroidered Chalice pall to be used during Mass. A MUST for any Pope Benedict or Padre Pio fan.

Please come and visit www.diclara.co.uk for many other unusual and beautiful ideas for Christmas. Available only while stocks last.

Pope Francis’ correction, and the “end of the world”.

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As I was doing my sons RE homework the other night I remembered that the book of revelation is about the “end of the world” but in fact a huge amount of Catholic scholars believe it to be the end of Jerusalem and the final sacking of the temple – which really was the end of the world as far as the Jews were concerned.
Of course it was better described as the end of an era – which I think best describes what we are seeing now in the Catholic Church.
With the formal correction issued to Pope Francis made public yesterday, I really feel this is the beginning of the end for the Catholic Church as we know it. I think this is a good thing and it is part of Our Lady’s plan. Just as Jerusalem was sacked and that era ended, I believe this time we are in now is the “end of the world” in terms of the Church. I believe we are now entering the time of “Tribulation” that is mentioned in so many Catholic prophecies ect. and that as a Church we will pass through that time and enter the “Era of Peace” that is also commonly spoke about.
And while yesterday didn’t see the physical world end or fire falling from the sky, perhaps in a strange sort of way Sept 23rd really was the day that the beginning of the end started, as far as this era of the church is concerned anyway…

Padre Pio vestments – and I’m blocked by FB, again.

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So I was just about to launch my new Padre Pio vestment range, which I have been working EXTREMELY hard on over the summer, when Facebook – my main way of advertising my business – goes and blocks me again.

I think this is the third time in as many months. This time it was from a comment I made on a post roughly 6 months ago in which I was commenting on how the UK Muslim rape gangs only target underage non-muslim white girls. This wasn’t me speculating – this is a well known fact of the Muslim rape gang cases that we have seen all over the UK over the past few years. But for Facebook, this factual information was deemed just too politically incorrect – so they blocked my ‘Carmelite Clare’ account for 7 days. I then set up a completely new account that also got blocked within the hour.

Normally I wouldn’t be too upset, but this time I really was because Facebook has obviously been trawling back through historical posts trying to find things to ban me for and is now watching me. I can only assume that before long Facebook will try to ban me permanently for speaking the truth and proclaiming the Gospel.

I would really like to keep in contact with the Catholic online community I have met over the last 6 years, so please come and follow me on Twitter, Instagram and sign up for my blog here. Also please bookmark my website www.diclara.co.uk If you want to contact me you can always get me at info@diclara.co.uk

Anyway… Today, 23rd September, is the feast day of Padre Pio, also known as St. Pio of Pietrelcina – patron saint of Confessors – was a Capuchin friar, priest, stigmatist, and mystic. He was both beatified (1999) and canonized (2002) By Pope Saint John Paul II.

On September 20, 1918, while hearing confessions, Padre Pio had his first occurrence of the stigmata: bodily marks, pain, and bleeding in locations corresponding to the crucifixion wounds of Jesus Christ. This phenomenon continued for fifty years, until the end of his life. The blood flowing from the stigmata smelled of perfume or flowers, a phenomenon mentioned in stories of the lives of several saints and often referred to as the odour of sanctity. Though Padre Pio said he would have preferred to suffer in secret, by early 1919, news about the stigmatic friar began to spread in the secular world. Padre Pio’s wounds were examined by many people, including physicians.

People who had started rebuilding their lives after World War I, began to see in Padre Pio a symbol of hope. Those close to him attest that he began to manifest several spiritual gifts, including the gifts of healing, bilocation, levitation, prophecy, miracles, extraordinary abstinence from both sleep and nourishment (one account states that Padre Agostino recorded one instance in which Padre Pio was able to subsist for at least 20 days at Verafeno on only the Eucharist without any other nourishment), the ability to read hearts, the gift of tongues, the gift of conversions, and the fragrance from his wounds. Many people said that when stepping into the confessional with Padre Pio, he was able to tell them their sins before they even said a thing!

A few weeks back, as I was still creating this set and learning more about Padre Pio, I asked him if he would take me on as one on his spiritual children. He reportedly made the promise of waiting on the threshold of heaven until every single one of his spiritual children has entered before him. He also said that when he takes on a new spiritual child, he takes on their entire family as well. This gives me enormous comfort and encouragement.

I hope you too will find out more about Padre Pio. He really is a very special saint. I have really enjoyed creating this vestment set with the big spadey ends on the stole, and the faux pearls. The purple damask material is just wonderful to work with and drapes beautifully. I am bracing myself for a tsunami of orders with this set – so please order soon if you want to get this for your priest for Advent or Christmas.

And now please, help me by visiting my shop at www.diclara.co.uk to see the rest of my vestments, and sharing this post all over Facebook and in all the groups who would be interested in these beautiful vestments, as I am unable to post on Facebook for a week – Thank you, I really appreciate your help.

Clare.

 

Smoking my way through the Ave’s.

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Walking into Mass late wearing a mantilla is never a good look – especially if you are the only one in your parish who wears one. Of course the perfect accessory to complete this look is a swath of misbehaving children and a lack of visible husband. I guess I’m the girl who has it all! 😀

The older kid’s tooth fell out in Mass and he went into mini hysterics as he bled everywhere – ’twas the “unbloody sacrifice” no longer. The middle one was having a strop because she “didn’t want to love God” and the youngest had escaped into the pew 2 rows in front. I feel resentful that my children are spoiling my time with Jesus at Mass and I feel like a failure of a Mother.

“Jesus help me!”

That night I listen to my Divine Office through the App on my phone while I clean the kitchen. I feel guilty about combining prayer with housework, but I know that if I sit down quietly to do it I will not make it through to the end because I will be asleep because I am so exhausted.

Tuesday morning I do Morning Office in the car on the school run. The older one is fighting with the middle one and I am swearing under my breath because we have been sitting in traffic for over 10 mins. We are going to be late for school – again. I am a 9/10 on the stress levels. I hear bits of the Office – intermittently interrupted with the 3 x table and complaints that the pencilcase that I bought last week is now either lost or broken or something.

On the way home I stop in my favourite supermarket car park (you heard me correctly – I have a favourite car park) play my Rosary App, and smoke my way through the Agony in the Garden and the Scourging at the Pillar. The guilt of smoking leaves me as I realise that my Blessed Mother is showing me through these two mysteries that Jesus knows what anxiety is like, and He also knows exhaustion.

I get to morning Mass and have a quiet time where I can be with Jesus alone. I take enormous comfort in the fact that He wants me to come to Him, and He wants to dwell within me, to be as close to me as possible while I take on the work He has given me – which most of the time I don’t think I can cope with.

I get home refreshed and begin listening to the 3rd and 4th Sorrowful Mysteries. My husband comes in. He is in a bad mood. We argue loudly with the Rosary playing in the background, and then I remember the Crowning with Thorns and summon up all my strength to finally hold my tongue. My husband goes into the other room and I try to contain myself while I listen to the Carrying of the Cross, because my marriage really feels like a cross right now.

As I pull myself together and begin work, I listen to the 5th Sorrowful Mystery – the Crucifixion. I remember to submit my will to God’s will, knowing that He is in control and there is a plan to all this madness, and His Mother is always there to hold my hand.

You see, I used to think that I needed to be quiet and holy to say my prayers. I couldn’t be more wrong. Jesus and His Mother want to be there with me in the dirt and stress and struggle of my ordinary daily life. What sort of fool would I be to keep them out?

“God is found in the pots and pans.” – St Teresa of Avila

You must feel Guilty because you are White.

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Being put in Facebook Jail means I can read my timeline but can’t comment on anything – which is probably a good thing right now because of the plethora of insanity that I am witnessing.

For days now I have seen people condemning racism over and over again on their own timelines. The reason this angers me is that it is so bloody obvious. Of COURSE you are not racist. Neither am I. Nobody on your friends list thinks you are racist – but you still feel the need to put up 5 posts a day confirming it – *just in case* someone might think you are.

Can you not see that you are falling into the white man guilt trap that the left wants you in? This is EXACTLY the reaction the Fake News Media wanted to provoke in you by going completely overboard on the Charlottesville protest. Can you not see that?

You have done nothing wrong. They are making you feel guilty because of the colour of your skin. That, my friend, is racism.

I am fiercely opposed to all forms of racism – including racism against whites. The bizarre thing here is that the racism is coming from white lefties, which only goes to demonstrate the cancerous self loathing the left has for itself.

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Their aim is to enslave you into a lifetime of guilt and apology – for things you never did, or would have approved of. It is a way of keeping you down. Being white, and being proud of your country does not make you a Nazi. Following Hitler makes you a Nazi.

The thing I really can’t understand here is the utter contradiction the left is displaying against itself. Take abortion for instance: Hillary Clinton says one of her main idols is Margaret Sanger – founder of Planned Parenthood. But Sanger’s main aim through abortion was eugenics. She wanted to rid the world of the poor, the disabled, and especially “negro’s”. That’s right – she was an out and out racist, a proper one. And the left hail her as some sort of equality demi-goddess. Nothing could be further from the truth.

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“We don’t want the word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population.” – Margaret Sanger, founder of Planned Parenthood.

And here she is giving a rousing speech at a flipping KKK meeting!!!

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Margaret Sanger – a darling of modern leftie ideology, was an outspoken white supremacist. You might want to remember that the next time your lefite friends and relatives try to make you feel guilty about, well, everything.

In the United States, the abortion rate for black women is almost 4 times that of white women. 35.6% of all abortions in the U.S. are performed on black women, however, black women make up only about 13% of the female population. On average, 900 black babies are aborted every day in the United States. More than 19 million black babies have been aborted since the 1973 Roe v. Wade. If that is not a holocaust, I don’t know what is. Yet the left seem to overlook all these facts. By supporting Planned Parenthood, they support the vision of white supremacist Margaret Sanger.

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I bet they don’t even know Margaret Sanger spoke at a KKK meeting!

The other, and equally disturbing juxtaposed position the left likes to take is its pandering defence of Islam. Muslims always seem to get to be top of the pile in terms of leftism – closely followed of course by Trans. I’ve often wondered who would win in a celebrity death match between Islam and Trans in the imaginary CNN sponsored tournament of “progressive” cage fighting. C’mon… It’s always Islam! 😀

Today a radical Islamist drove his Van of Peace into a crowd of pedestrians in Barcelona, killing at least 13, and injuring over 100. And as prescribed, the media is doing its same old “lone wolf” “mentally ill” “let’s not jump to conclusions” cabaret act. I hear the Eiffel tower, now affectionately known as the Barometer of Terror, has for whatever reason switched its lights off – again. I’m sure some lefties will gather, for whatever reason to light flowers and teddies, and lay bunches of candles – or vice versa…

In the last 30 days there have been 156 Islamic attacks in 26 countries, in which 1105 people were killed and 993 injured. And before I go on, I want to clarify that I am criticising Islam as an Ideology here – I am not criticising Muslims as people, as I believe them to be victims of Islam. Islam *by its very nature* seeks to dominate in the belief that it is superior to all other ideologies. It views non muslims as “kufir” which means infidel, sub-human, less than an animal. And this is a view that is held not just by the radicals, but by the mainstream. Islam teaches Muslims that they are superior to non-Muslims. It is a central tenet of Islam. Now tell me – how is that different to the sick ideology held by white supremacists that everyone is going bat-crazy about right now?

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I still haven’t really worked out why the left panders to Islam so much. I find it quite demeaning that the Media always seem to approach Islamic ideology with this sort of pathetic apologetic embarrassment. Why do they not treat it with the same fury and condemnation as they do the ideology of white supremacy? Both groups believe themselves to be superior to non members of their particular group. The same can be said for Orthodox Jews who believe they are ethnically superior. In one school in London, a boy was refused a place on the grounds that he is of mixed Jewish and Italian ethnic origin.

I actually think it is a good thing that the Charlottesville protest has brought white supremacy into the mainstream media with such force, because now, in the name of equality, we can hold the media to account for their response – or lack of response to all other supremacist groups. Perhaps it will make those on the left think, just a little bit, about what they actually do support, and what they don’t. And perhaps it will make you think, just a little bit, if you are being made to feel guilty because of the colour of your skin, and whether you are a victim of racism yourself.

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– Winston Churchill

 

Catholic “Youth Priest” compares St Elizabeth to the LGBT Movement – Youth Reject Homily.

(Fr Dominc Howarth compares St Elizabeth to the LGBT movement at 6 mins into the video.)

Here we have Fr Dominic Howarth preaching for the official Lourdes 2017 Centenary commemoration Mass. He is from Brentwood diocese UK and is the Episcopal Vicar for Formation. He is in charge of Catechesis and Youth. This event was the diocesan pilgrimage, and the Brentwood Catholic Youth Service had 200 young people on the trip.

Fr Howarth is also one of the founders of “Flame” the largest UK youth conference who’s main speaker was pro gay, pro women’s ordination Fr Timothy Radcliffe. He also presided at the “Gay Mass” at Brentwood Cathedral in 2016. I have been told that he is regarded by the Bishops conference of England a Wales to be leading figure as regards to Catholic Youth.

In the above homily, Fr Howarth talks about loneliness and how St Elizabeth would have been shunned for being barren – which at that time was considered a disgrace. At 6 mins into the video he compares St Elizabeth’s experience of being shunned to that of today’s LGBT community. Personally I find this quite odd, as Fr Howarth seems to not understand that homosexuality is in fact lauded by our society today. I also find it quite odd that a priest would compare a saint to the LGBT community – especially with no clear explanation of what the churches teaching on homosexuality actually is.

I showed the video to a few young Catholics and asked for their opinion:

“…The problem is this: before the 19th century there was no concept of LGBT identity, only homosexual sex acts. This is how the Catholic Church still views this. Shunning sinners, whether they be tax-collectors, prostitutes or homosexuals, is wrong and un-Christian. The problem is that nowadays the act and the person are an identity group. So when this priest compares the shunning of gays to the shunning of St Elizabeth, he’s implying that we should accept homosexual sex as non-sinful. I think that homosexuals shouldn’t be prosecuted or persecuted, but what they do is still wrong. Finally, I notice that the trend in the RC Church is to try and compromise with the postmodern culture. It’s as if all these clergy think that by embracing the buzz words of our era they’ll attract more people. Compromise on the truth never works.” – Lewis age 23.

“…St Elizabeth chose to be outside of the world and to live far from it contrary to what the priest makes out and Mary by making the journey to Elizabeth with Christ in her womb makes the first Eucharistic procession. So if anything Elizabeth is about the sanctity of life, So quite the reverse of the LGBT movement. Therefore Mary and Elisabeth are all about child bearing and life whereas the LGBT movement impedes life by their promotion of such people who by the nature of their relationships are closed to life.” – Brad, age 25.

“…Ok, he is comparing two things that are very different from one another. St. Elizabeth’s barrenness, at the time, was seen as a curse, because in those days maladies such as that, including blindness, infirmity, etc, were all viewed as punishments that God had inflicted on people throughout the Old Testament. You cannot compare St. Elizabeth’s barrenness to the LGBT.

Those in the LGBT are living in sin, Elizabeth was not, she was an instrument through which God moved to make the way for His Son’s arrival. The LGBT may, yes, be lonely, but their loneliness stems from living in sin.

We must pray for the those living in sin, yes, pray for God’ Mercy upon them and that they will cease to live in sin and enter God’s Grace. If they approach us for help we should, as Catholics, offer it, but we cannot condone their blatant sinful lifestyle.” – Mary, age 27.

“…Okay. Elizabeth was shunned because she was barren, but yet it wasn’t because of a moral issue, rather it was because God had a greater plan: she later gave birth to St. John the Baptist. Active homosexual activity, on the other hand, is a moral issue of great depravity and has caused great damage. Those participating in it must be refused Communion for the sake of their souls and so as to not cause scandal. To receive Communion one must be in Communion, and those not in Communion must be called, with love, to repentance.” – Josh, age 18 (discerning the Priesthood).

“…I went ahead and watched the entire homily up to that point. I find it a bit odd because generally you can tell from the get-go what sort of homily you’re in for. If the priest in question supports a certain vaguely-heretical position it’s usually fairly obvious, but in this case there wasn’t an abundance of buzzwords like there usually would be. I think it’s an unfair comparison to draw a parallel between Elizabeth and the LGBT movement. For many reasons, but especially because being unable to conceive when you are actually in a morally-acceptable marriage which you are faithful to is not remotely a sin, and unless you are definitely making clear that you refer only to people who deal with same-sex attraction who are punished or mistreated DESPITE trying their hardest to overcome their shortcomings, it’s at best vastly irresponsible to compare the two, and at worst outright manipulation.

I don’t believe any people who experience same sex attraction, or even those who act on it, should be physically harmed in any way by anyone solely for being that way, but I also do not believe that homosexuality is a good thing that should be celebrated, and I adhere to church teachings which says that homosexuality is a sin and should be related to as such; with those who are in its grasp treated with the truth they deserve to hear from their priests. It’s unclear to me whether the priest in this video is appealing to current events because he believes that’s what young people are interested in, or whether it’s because he has his own agenda he’s attempting to push, but I’m forced to assume that there is some sort of idea behind it that has some issues.” – Emily, age 19.

“…I never like it when clergy use the term “LGBT”. They allow themselves to be drawn into a battle of semantics and allow enemies of the Church to set the terms of any debate. Secondly, his comparison to Elizabeth is a non-sequitur. If she was excluded it wasn’t because of her lifestyle choices – you don’t choose to be barren but you can choose not to live in sin. There is a gap in the market for someone to explain the Catholic teaching on homosexuality but it seems everyone would rather blur the lines. That merely ignores the inherent dignity of the person and will never be adequate. The other thing I find with “trendy” priests is that they want to portray the Church as “tolerant and loving” by pretending hard teachings don’t exist and papering over them. Nothing is more merciful than the truth. As a cleric, his responsibility is that much greater as he is speaking from the pulpit and is in persona Christi. Time for many priests to live up to that higher standard both in their lives and their preaching.” – Daniel, age 27.

It strikes me that Fr Howarth might want to re-assess if he is actually in touch with what young Catholics want and need. I’m sure he had the best of intentions, but his heavily left-wing “church of nice” approach clearly isn’t cutting it. It is becoming more and more apparent that Catholic youth today are much more socially conservative, and much more solid in their faith than their parents and grandparents generations. This is a fact that those in charge seem to be either completely unaware of – or are choosing to ignore. Either way, it is quite embarrassing for Fr. Howarth that the “youth of today” should be (correctly) pulling him up on his social morality and theology. But isn’t it wonderful to see how intelligent, faithful and passionate our young Catholics are?!

I’m not sure if Fr Howarth’s Bishop has been informed of the above sermon. And especially if you are a young catholic – perhaps you would like to email Bishop Alan Williams of Brentwood Diocese bishopalan@dioceseofbrentwood.org and tell him what you think of Fr Howarth’s homily, and also what you would want from a Youth Ministry.

Giving more in the bedroom – Catholic style :)

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21 He looked up and saw rich people putting their gifts into the treasury; 2 he also saw a poor widow put in two small copper coins. 3 He said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put in more than all of them; 4 for all of them have contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty has put in all she had to live on.”

This wonderful piece of scripture illustrated perfectly how I teach people how to fast. Often people approach fasting as a rule bound endurance test in which discipline reigns supreme and we all feel awful and end up just hating fasting – or simply give up.

The way I approach fasting is to encourage people to give up just 1 cup of coffee in the morning, but to do it out of pure love for God, in conjunction with a short prayer. You see, fasting is all about love. It is about how much we are willing to give. How much we are willing to joyfully suffer is the measure of our love (God never enjoys a grumpy faster! 😀 ).

Love and suffering go hand in hand and can never be separated. This is such a fundamental truth of Christianity, illustrated perfectly by Christ on the cross, that it can very quickly become overwhelming. My approach is very much based on the spirituality of St Therese of Lisieux: little things done with great love. If we can understand the concept of the indissolubility of love and suffering in the smallest thing, then we can begin to apply it to bigger things in our lives.

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The absolute key element is that we must be very honest with ourselves about how much we are able to give at this point in our lives. If we are holding back, then we are holding back our love and we will never grow closer to God. If we are giving too much, then we are going to burnout and become resentful about giving any more. Both of these polarised stances are as harmful as each other. Balance is the key. Honesty, patience and compassion towards ourselves, and support from a faithful and experienced spiritual director who knows us and how much we can cope with.

The poor widow got this exactly right. She un-begrudgingly gave all she could give, and it was the right amount. Of course we don’t know this woman’s circumstances outside of this story. She may have had family or friends supporting her. She may have been relying entirely on God to provide for her needs. I very much doubt Jesus would have approved so strongly of her generosity if it meant she was going to make herself ill, or cause her not to be able to cope. She realistically gave all she could at that time in her life.

Some of my friends and family know that I fast. They don’t get why! I try explaining but their hearts are just not in the right place to understand about how I want to reciprocate the enormous love shown to me by Jesus on the Cross, with little acts of self sacrifice – and I respect that. Everyone is at a different stage. I’m sure they are stronger in other areas where I am very weak.

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It struck me this morning that this story, and the way it relates to fasting can also be applied perfectly to the Catholic Churches teaching on married couples being open to life.

Of course the norm in our secular society is to use artificial contraception. We used artificial contraception for the first 5 years of our marriage. But the Church teaches that this way of having sex causes us to hold back our love. Love, in a Catholic marriage is about the entire self giving of ones self to the other – and to God. This is probably one of the hardest teachings we will ever face because it cuts down to the very core of who we are as people and our need to love and to be loved. Also, artificial contraception gives the impression that sex is something that we have the right to control and use as we please. This view is so normalised now within our secular society that being open to life and having a large family is sadly regarded as odd.

What I find so sad is that people using artificial contraception just don’t know what they are missing out on. Having lived both lifestyles, I can absolutely attest to the fact that being open to life is so, so much better. It is healthier, more natural, teaches you and your husband respect for your body and your fertility, empowers you to be able to discuss marriage, sex and babies in a much more open and giving way with God as the boss. But that is not to say that it is easy. It took me about 6 years to get to the stage where I could peacefully and happily be open to life.

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Just like with fasting, I was struggling with how much I was willing to give – how much I could give at that point in my life. This is why I say it really is a lifestyle, rather than just a part of ones life. As I prayed about being open to life, I found myself beginning to prioritise different things in my life, giving things up, re-ordering things. I found myself deciding that at this point in my life, remaining open to life was more important to me than having a career. That is not to say that I gave up my job – but only that it now ranked less important on my list of priorities. Of course at this time in our lives my husband had a good job and there was not real need for me to work – so I was in a position to be able to give that up. I was also lucky enough to have a husband who was also keen to be open to life. Many people don’t have this. We were both in good health and had support from my parents. Many people don’t have this either. But most crucially, I wanted to give more – just like I wanted to fast. I was at that stage in my spiritual life where I could feel God calling me to do this.

The rewards that came to the marriage from us both giving more came as a complete surprise to both of us. Rather than “What am I getting out of this marriage?” it changed to “What more can I give to this marriage?”. All 3 of our children were planned. In fact our second and third child were conceived quickly using NFP to determine when I was at peak ovulation. Our first child took over a year because we hadn’t learned about my cycle at that point and obviously didn’t know what the heck we were doing! 😀

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But it wasn’t always easy to get into the giving mindset. I don’t have easy pregnancies. I get very sick and very big and very tired. I really do not like being pregnant very much at all. My first experience of birth was very traumatising and I swore blind after that that I could never have another child because I could just never go through that again. The day after our first child was born my Father in law died, and my husband started a new job. We grieved all through our first days of becoming parents. It was awful. My husband was not able to get into the Father role emotionally for over a year. I had to do it on my own.

After my first two children I had crushing post natal depression. After my second I got 9 months of 24/7 tinnitus. We went through the most horrendous time as a couple. I really felt overwhelmed a lot of the time and that I wasn’t really coping or doing a good job as a Mum. I got mastitis after all 3 and couldn’t breastfeed – and I know that if I have another baby I will get it again because that is just how my body is made. And through all these times I struggled agonisingly with being open to life.

We often failed to stick to the teaching, not out of pure selfishness or greed or lust, but out of not being able to cope with the stress and the pressure of normal life, and the need to be loved and comforted by each other. I often felt like a terrible failure at these times – which was the totally wrong outlook. We are only human. Just as in fasting – you can only give your all. Any more than that and you start to make yourself ill, or resentful about giving more. And lets not underestimate for a second the damage that is caused by unchecked resentment in the bedroom, or the rest of the marriage. For some people, even giving up one cup of coffee is a struggle, and you simply cannot ask anymore of them at that stage in their life if they are truly giving their all. We are all at different stages.

IT IS OK TO STRUGGLE! Struggling means that the desire to live the teaching is there, even if you are not quite able to do it yet. My advice to this would be exactly what I would say about fasting: be patient and compassionate with yourself, take it to confession and let it go, and keep going 🙂 What would make it easier for you to be open to life? What would make it possible for you to be able to give more? Have you ever tried the Little Way Of Fasting?

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There is one last thing…

The Catholic church teaches that “For just reasons, spouses may wish to space the births of their children. It is their duty to make certain that their desire is not motivated by selfishness” CCC 2368

It is possible to use NFP with an artificial contraception mindset. That is to say that there is no good reason why you should be avoiding having another child right now. Reasons for this would be based upon a couple preferring a smaller family and a more comfortable lifestyle. This totally goes against the philosophy of being open to life and certainly is not giving your all. In terms of fasting this would be like giving up your cup of coffee in the morning, but having a cup of tea instead – you really arn’t giving anything.

Of course that is not to say that people do have very real reasons to avoid pregnancy. The mothers life might be at risk from another pregnancy for example. In my case, my husband is sick and unable to work which has put me in the position of breadwinner. I can honestly say that I am at the limit of what I can give right now. And that’s ok 🙂

It is all about love. How much are we willing to love? How much are we willing to give? Be it fasting or being open to life, the same rule applies: We must never give begrudgingly, and just like the poor widow, God does not expect me to give anymore than my absolute all. We are all a work in progress 🙂

Keep giving! 🙂

Theresa May and Islamic Extremism – Why she lost my vote.

I was going to vote Tory in the UK General election until I watched Theresa May give her speech following the London Bridge terror attacks. She said Muslim extremists follow a “Perversion of Islam”. That is a very difficult argument to make when they were actually following the direct instructions of the founder and prophet of their religion found in the verses of the Qu’ran and the Hadith.

During her speech I lost all confidence in her ability to effectively eradicate Islamic terrorism in the UK. Of course not all Muslims are terrorists, but all the terrorists we are seeing at the moment are Muslims. Yet the Government and the Press still fail to acknowledge the core issue within Islam which is that there is no centrally approved interpretation of the Islamic holy texts – which means all interpretations are valid.

To me it was just another limp wristed, “British Values” politically correct apology. She lost my vote.

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Theresa May wears a headscarf, which most Muslims regard as a sign of the submission of women.

Islamic extremism has been defined by the British Government as any form of Islam that opposes “democracy, the rule of law, individual liberty and mutual respect and tolerance of different faiths and beliefs.”

The UK High Court has offered two major definitions for Islamic extremism:

  • The use of violent tactics such as bombing and assassinations for achieving perceived Islamic goals.
  • An extremely conservative view of Islam, which does not necessarily entail violence.
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Shekeel Begg, Imam.

In October 2016 Shekeel Begg, a prominent Muslim public figure and Imam at Lewisham Islamic Centre, lost his court case of Libel against the BBC. This case is noteworthy because the judge listed a 10-point definition of Islamic extremism that he used to determine the case.

I want to concentrate on the first and seventh points made in this case by High Court Judge Sir Charles Anthony Haddon-Cave:

  • First, a ‘Manichean’ view of the world. A total, eternal ‘Manichean’ worldview is a central tenet of violent Islamic extremism. It divides the world strictly into ‘Us’ versus ‘Them’: those who are blessed or saved (i.e. the “right kind” of Muslim) on the one hand and those who are to be damned for eternity (i.e. the “wrong kind” of Muslim and everyone else) on the other.
  • Seventh, the classification of all non-Muslims as unbelievers (kuffar).

As you can see, these two points focus not so much on blowing yourself up, but on an ideology in which the Extremist believes himself to be better than those who do not subscribe to his way of thinking. This is nothing new in the history of mankind. We saw exactly this type of vile ideology in Nazi Germany.

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Of course not all Muslims are bad. The majority in the west are moderate, law abiding, peaceful citizens who would not identify as extremists in any way. But I feel we might have overlooked an issue so critically important within the moderate Muslim community, that it could potentially be our downfall.

Judge Charles Anthony Haddon-Cave also seems to have missed this point. He left out an important aspect of non-violent Islamic extremism that is as great a threat to western society as violent Jihad:

*The desire for, or active participation in the Islamification of the West.*

This would apply to any Muslim who desires Islam to be dominant politically, socially, religiously and in any other way. A bit like Ex-Labour MP Shahid Malik who shows what the aspirations of Islam are for the UK. This was filmed at a major Islamic conference in the UK in 2010.

So is Shahid Malik an Islamic extremist? He obviously desires the Islamification of the UK. I would argue that because of this, he is.

Perhaps we should begin all public debates and interviews with Muslims by asking them to define what it is they actually believe. Of course the vast majority of Muslims will be against violent Jihad, but do they accept the notion of Kuffar as set out in the Qu’ran? Do they believe themselves to be better than others simply because they are Muslim? What do they see for Britain’s future in regards to Islam?

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And from their answers we have to determine whether they do actually pose a threat to our society or not, and whether or not we want people who hold these views in our country. Of course these questions should not be limited to Muslims alone – but anyone who seeks to forward the cause of Islam in the UK through indoctrination, normalisation or any other means ie. these Church of England primary School Teachers who took their school kids to the Mosque to learn how to pray.

Year 2 children, aged 6 and 7 from Moordown St John’s Church of England Primary School are encouraged to bow down in prayer at Gloucester Mosque.

Year 2 children, aged 6 and 7 from Moordown St John’s Church of England Primary School are encouraged to bow down in prayer at Gloucester Mosque.

I wrote to my own local Tory councilor just before the election in a desperate attempt to find some clarity on how the Tory party is going to with Islamic extremism. I got this reply:

“Dear Clare, Thanks so much for messaging me. As you may know, I work in countering violent extremism so I am particularly interested in making sure we get our counter terrorism strategy right as I have dedicated my recent career to keeping us safe. I would say I am someone who calls it as it is, but in a respectful manner. So if I have the privilege of being your MP I will be plain speaking. The Party has done a very good job of keeping us safe, but now we need to look at what more we can do. Theresa May is the only person suited to doing this. We should root out extremism in all corners of our society, and not be afraid to call it out where we see it. I very much hope you will consider voting Conservative – I believe that as a party we will make the right decisions to keep the UK safe.”

For someone who claims to be plain speaking she has a remarkable ability to avoid using the word “Islam”.

I replied:

“I would be very interested to hear whether the Imams you spoke to are for or against the Islamification of the UK. This is as great a threat to our country as terrorism. I guess we need to keep revising what we class as extremism, and whether desiring the Islamification of the UK could be classed as being extreme. I believe it could.”

She saw the message but I got no reply. I did not vote for her. She did not win the seat.

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There is currently a drastic lack of confidence in the Government to deal with Islamic terrorism. If Theresa May wants to win this war on Terror then she is going to have to do several things.

  1. Admit that Islamic extremism is a widely held orthodox interpretation of Islam.
  2. Define clearly what constitutes non-violent Islamic extremism.
  3. Identify those who desire the Islamification of the UK and declare their views as extreme.

Once we can do these simple things we can find ways to fight and eradicate the root cause of what threatens Western society. But at the moment the politicians are afraid to even name it. How can we fight an enemy we are not even allowed to name?! If this politically correct silence continues, western society will fall.

 

I’ll be attending the anti terror march this Sunday June 11th in Manchester.

I will be attending. I hope to see you there 🙂

Please visit the website: https://www.therebel.media/uk_against_hate

WHEN
June 11, 2017 at 2pm – 5pm
WHERE
Manchester Piccadilly Train Station
2105 London Rd
Manchester M60 7RA
United Kingdom
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CNN Organise Fake News London Muslim Peace Demo.

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Members of the Muslim community paid their respects to the victims with tributes near London Bridge. Courtesy of BBC News.

Here we can see a lovely pic of some kind hearted Muslims laying flowers and teddies and holding signs with the hashtag #Love Will Win. It was published on the BBC News website.

Knowing that the BBC often use propaganda machines such as The White Helmets to forward their agenda of multiculturalism and “diversity” (which actually just means anti-white), I decided to take a closer look at the pic.

The first thing that struck me was that they had the WRONG bridge on their signs! The bridge on their signs is Tower Bridge:

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Sign showing Tower Bridge.

This is London Bridge:

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London Bridge.

It is a mistake commonly made by American tourists. They often think the biggest and most elaborate bridge is London Bridge and then are rather disappointing when they see that London Bridge is actually a fairly boring normal Bridge!

So It wouldn’t surprise me at all if that sign had been made by a well meaning, if not rather uninformed American.

Why do I say this?

Well, it turns out that those kind and thoughtful Muslim were not holding a spontaneous peace demo at all. The whole thing had been orchestrated by CNN – the American version of the BBC. They had set up the whole event as a photo shoot with Becky Anderson presenting it. They invited along their friends at the BBC and other Media outlets, so as to reassure you that good Muslims are up in London protesting against the terrorists.

That’s right – they faked the whole thing.

That leaves us with a few questions:

  1. Were there no other Muslims protesting the terrorists AT ALL having REAL demo’s that they could have photographed?
  2. Do they really hold us in such contempt that they think they can spoon-feed us Fake News, and we will just swallow it down?
  3. Why did they feel the need to orchestrate and report this fake demo as if it was a spontaneous event?
  4. What is their agenda?

As I have said before – Do not rely on one source of information to form your views. By all means watch CNN and the BBC, but take it with a pinch of salt and also seek other News outlets like Breitbart to gain another perspective.